Dealing with a psychopathic boss and colleagues in the workplace

CHIEDZA KADARE AND PAUL NYAUSARU

In the modern workplace, employees often encounter a variety of personalities, some of which can be challenging to work with. Among the most difficult are psychopathic bosses and colleagues.

Dealing with individuals who exhibit psychopathic tendencies can be extremely stressful and can have a negative impact on work performance and overall well-being. However, with the right strategies and mindset, it is possible to navigate these challenging situations effectively.

Identifying a Psychopathic Boss or Colleague:

Before delving into strategies for dealing with a psychopathic boss or colleague, it is essential to recognize the signs of psychopathy. Psychopathic individuals typically exhibit traits such as manipulation, deceitfulness, lack of empathy, impulsivity, and a grandiose sense of self-importance. They may also engage in gaslighting, bullying, and other toxic behaviours that create a hostile work environment. Dr Renata Schoeman, psychiatrist and associate professor in Leadership at the University of Stellenbosch Business School (USB), points out that these psychotic traits are what help leaders get ahead in business. She adds that the bullying tactics of the ‘successful psychopath’ are based on assessing the usefulness and weaknesses of those around them, manipulating others to bond with them, using their victims’ feedback to build and maintain control, and then abandoning them when they were no longer useful. Psychopaths are particularly efficient at using and manipulating communication networks to enhance their own reputation while discrediting others and creating and maintaining conflicts and rivalries amongst colleagues.

Strategies for Dealing with a Psychopathic Boss and colleagues:

1. Document Everything: Keep detailed records of interactions, including emails, memos, and meeting notes. This documentation can serve as evidence in case you need to escalate the issue to HR or higher management.
2. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with your boss and communicate them assertively. Psychopathic individuals may try to push boundaries, so it is crucial to be firm and consistent.
3. Seek Support: Reach out to trusted colleagues, a mentor, or a therapist for emotional support and guidance. Talking to someone can help you gain perspective and cope with the stress of dealing with a psychopathic boss.
4. Maintain Professionalism: Avoid getting drawn into conflicts or power struggles with psychopathic colleagues. Stay focused on your work and maintain a professional demeanour at all times.
5. Build Alliances: Cultivate positive relationships with other colleagues who may be experiencing similar challenges. A supportive network can make it easier to navigate difficult situations.
6. Protect Yourself: If a colleague’s behaviour becomes threatening or abusive, don’t hesitate to report it to HR or your supervisor. Your safety and well-being should always be a top priority.

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Self-Care Tips for Coping with a Toxic Work Environment:

1. Practice Self-Care: Take care of your physical and mental health by prioritizing activities that help you relax and recharge, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.
2. Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say no to additional work or responsibilities that may exacerbate stress and burnout.
3. Consider Your Options: If the toxic work environment becomes unbearable, explore the possibility of transferring to a different department or seeking employment elsewhere.

In conclusion, dealing with a psychopathic boss or colleagues in the workplace can be challenging, but it is possible to navigate these situations with the right strategies and support. By recognizing the signs of psychopathy, setting boundaries, seeking support, and prioritizing self-care, you can protect yourself and maintain your well-being in a toxic work environment. Remember that you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you cope with difficult workplace dynamics.

Paul Nyausaru is an OD Practitioner and leadership coach. You can get in touch with him on whatsapp/call +263774062756 or Email pnyausaru@gmail.com

Chiedza Kadare is an OD Practitioner. You can get in touch with her on whatsapp/call +263 77 283 0986 or Email chiedza.kadare@gmail.com